This article explores whether oversharing is a common characteristic seen in individuals with autism spectrum disorder (ASD). It delves into what oversharing generally entails in social settings and how communication differences associated with autism might contribute to this behavior. We also examine other common reasons why individuals might overshare.
Understanding Oversharing
Oversharing involves disclosing personal or sensitive information considered inappropriate for a given social context or relationship. It often reflects a mismatch between the intimacy shared and established social norms. Examples include revealing highly personal details to new acquaintances or providing excessive information beyond what is necessary. Oversharing is about the incongruity with expected social boundaries, not just the volume of information.
Autism and Social Communication
Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a developmental difference affecting how individuals interact and communicate. Individuals with autism may find it challenging to interpret unspoken social cues, such as facial expressions or body language. They might also experience difficulties with reciprocal conversation, where dialogue involves a give-and-take of information. These challenges with social communication can impact how autistic individuals engage with others.
Why Oversharing Can Occur in Autism
Oversharing in autism can stem from social communication differences. Individuals with autism may struggle to interpret social cues indicating a listener’s interest or discomfort, leading them to continue sharing without realizing the other person may be disengaging. Challenges with understanding social hierarchies or appropriate boundaries can also contribute, as individuals might not differentiate what information is suitable for different relationships or settings.
A literal interpretation of social rules, such as the expectation to “be honest,” might lead some autistic individuals to share more than is socially expected. A strong interest in specific topics, or special interests, can also result in extensive detail or “info-dumping.” Differences in theory of mind, the ability to understand another person’s perspective, can mean an autistic individual shares information assuming the listener has the same background knowledge or interest. Oversharing can also be an attempt to connect or a manifestation of anxiety, as individuals try to bridge social gaps or manage discomfort.
Other Reasons for Oversharing
While oversharing can be observed in individuals with autism, it is a common human behavior not exclusive to any single group. Many people overshare due to anxiety or nervousness, attempting to fill silence or appear engaged. Loneliness or a strong desire for connection can also drive individuals to share personal details quickly, hoping to foster intimacy.
A lack of social experience or underdeveloped social skills can also contribute to oversharing. Certain personality traits, such as high extroversion or impulsivity, can make some people more prone to spontaneously sharing personal information. Past trauma or emotional distress can also lead to oversharing as a coping mechanism or a way to process difficult experiences. Cultural differences in communication styles or a lack of awareness regarding personal boundaries can also influence what is considered appropriate to share.
Approaching Social Interactions
Navigating social interactions where oversharing occurs requires self-awareness and understanding. For individuals who tend to overshare, developing self-awareness about their communication style is a helpful first step. Practicing active listening can help balance conversations. Pausing before responding can provide an opportunity to consider whether the information is appropriate for the context.
For those interacting with someone who overshares, setting healthy boundaries gently can guide the conversation. This might involve gentle redirection or conversational pivots to shift the topic. Empathy and understanding are important, recognizing that oversharing often comes from seeking connection or managing discomfort rather than an intent to offend. Focusing on common interests can help steer discussions towards more comfortable and reciprocal exchanges.